Sad news

I have been a moderator on the forum thisisbigbrother.com for many years now. I have seen people come and go, even a few return. Sometimes people stop posting without any reason. They seem to cut off their friends they have formed and just move on. I guess there can be many reasons why this happens but it does leave the mystery of what happened to them and why did they leave.

The internet and especially forums are transient in nature. People pass though them at various stages of their lives and move onto pastures new. What is unusual is that they just disappear and nobody had an idea there were going to do that. One such case was a user called Andyman who just stopped posting, his last post being in the early hours of morning on the 10th march 2010. With over 19.000 posts to his name he just disappeared and never return with leaving a reason for his departure.  

There was a lot speculation why he had left and call for him to return.  The truth is they fell on deaf ears. The emails and message that members sent him on the forum and on places like facebook never got to him. He had died a few days after his last post, if not that day and nobody ever knew. He just seemed to dissuader.

It was only after another member of the adim team spotted another reference to him on another site did the digging begin. Following the information trail he discovered a post by his family moarning his passing. Put that with the information he had already it was clear that Andyman was no more and had passed into memory in his early thirties.

It was sad news indeed and when it appeared on the forum and on the TiBB facebook groups that people understood the mystery disappearance. Some felt bad for the messages they sent after his death to get him to go back to the forum, but they have to understand they didn't know why he left. They had no idea he had died and never would have guessed that his fate.They have no need to feel bad because they never knew the truth.

Andyman left us all a legacy in his posts on the forum, but more than that he touched our lives. There has been some lovely things said about him. Old closed threads have be reopened that became to big and slowed the forum down. Even old members that had disappeared themselves have returned to play their respects for a wonderful person and a great poster. Within the forum and in our lives a bit of him continues on. I just hope her knew how well respected he was how much people liked him. He made us laugh and now we miss him.

Life. like the internet, is transient too. We all have little time on this earth, to fill it will any kind of bad feeling. Doing this without resolving differences, especially were there are no real differences, is foolish beyond measure. Life is for living and that means sometimes resolving things, talking , and understanding others views  Time is too precious too waste.

Finally I just want say one thing I hope wherever Andyman is now is safe and at peace. I hope he knew the love his family and those who touched his life had for him. He is missed by many and will be for years to come.